Too many of us live lives of quiet desperation, isolated from one another yet somehow always connected by technology. When was the last time you had a hearty laugh with your friends? How often do you feel alone in your most significant relationship? In which relationship(s) can you relax and be yourself?
What we need and crave most is to know and be known by others. We humans are born to love and be loved.
Our modern life is that offers a great deal of opportunity for connection, and on the other side of that is great opportunity for isolation. Why is that? Well, for starters we’re all so BUSY. There’s so much going on that slowing down to take stock of what matters to us is scheduled for some time in 2021, if we’re even cognizant of our future plans. Too many of us are operating on autopilot, checking off tasks and being “productive” at the expense of purpose and passion.
How do we slow down enough to begin to take in and truly experience our relationships? How do we stop living life as a to do list and start living it as a “get to do” list?
The first thing to do is become aware of the frenetic pace and energy that we’re experiencing.
Notice. Notice your breathing. Are your breaths deep and long, or are they shallow and short? Notice your muscle tension. Is your body relaxed and at ease, or are you wound tighter than a top, ready to bust with one more input? Notice your thoughts. Are they calm and supportive, or are they taking you on a rollercoaster ride from anxiety to depression? Notice yourself.
How does noticing your experience impact you? What is your quality of wellbeing these days?
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