Self Care for Emotional Trauma

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Self Care for Emotional Trauma

Typically when you’re on the edge of expansion, conflict occurs because opening to life is in direct opposition to the unconscious strategies you’ve employed to keep you safe. Growth requires confronting our limits, but confronting our limits feels incredibly threatening. If symptoms have been dormant, like anxiety, night sweats, irritability, lack of focus/concentration, digestion issues, etc., they start coming back just when you start moving forward.

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The Great Lie: "I'm not enough" and Breaking Free

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The Great Lie: "I'm not enough" and Breaking Free

After years of experiencing traumatic conditions inside of relationships that were supposed to be loving, many of us conclude that there’s something fundamentally wrong with us. Living with a sense of impending doom, we dare not venture into the creative space, lest we fail (once more). We dare not share who we are with others, lest they see how messed up we are. We dare not reach out, lest we experience waves of rejection and shame for simply wanting or needing something.

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You're Not Broken

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You're Not Broken

I’ve done my best within the limits of language to describe the human experience in a way that might make sense of your inner conflict and help you start to create a little more harmony. I know from experience that by getting to know each of my parts and their unique needs and desires, I’ve gotten to know more of me. That’s allowed me to accept myself more fully and to know in my mind-body-spirit that I am not broken. And neither are you. 

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Recovering from C-PTSD by Following My Heart

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Recovering from C-PTSD by Following My Heart

My personal struggles remain personal, but the themes are familiar. All the life symptoms I mentioned earlier have been a part of my journey. And through it all I deeply believed that life was meant to be enjoyed—not endured. So I began to listen deeply to what my heart and soul were saying.

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The Freedom That Comes With Owning "I Don't Know What I Am Doing"

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The Freedom That Comes With Owning "I Don't Know What I Am Doing"

So the next time you think to yourself, “I don’t know what I’m doing,” remember that most of us do not. Most of us live under the illusive spell that we do until life comes along and throws us a curveball. WHA-BAM! And we’re shocked out of our daydream that we know WTF is going on. The truth is: we’re all just trying to figure out how to handle the next situation that’s in front of us.

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Relationships: Where We Are Wounded & Where We Heal

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Relationships: Where We Are Wounded & Where We Heal

And so we reach a crucial point in recovering ourselves when we realize that we simply cannot heal any more on our own; that we need other people and human connection in order to truly heal and for most of us, that is a terrifying discovery. That’s what often keeps us stuck in relationships that are wounding.

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You're so smart...how did you get hooked up with that guy?

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You're so smart...how did you get hooked up with that guy?

And please, don’t listen to the people who act as if you’ve done something wrong for getting hooked by a con artist. You didn’t do anything other than get bamboozled by a crook. It happens. We’ve all been taken for a ride in various contexts. This one happens to be yours. And there IS a way through the pain, the terror, the guilt, and the shame. You will return to love.

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