The Great Lie: "I'm not enough" and Breaking Free

The Great Lie: "I'm not enough" and Breaking Free

After years of experiencing traumatic conditions inside of relationships that were supposed to be loving, many of us conclude that there’s something fundamentally wrong with us. Living with a sense of impending doom, we dare not venture into the creative space, lest we fail (once more). We dare not share who we are with others, lest they see how messed up we are. We dare not reach out, lest we experience waves of rejection and shame for simply wanting or needing something.

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Where Does Confidence Come From?

Where Does Confidence Come From?

You know that woman who always seems at ease? The one you’re secretly admiring and (maybe just a little bit) resenting… She communicates clearly. She sets good boundaries. She is certain of her choices. She embraces who she is and is approachable at the same time. She’s got what you see as authentic confidence. How did she get it? Did she learn it, or was she born with it?

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Recovering from C-PTSD by Following My Heart

Recovering from C-PTSD by Following My Heart

My personal struggles remain personal, but the themes are familiar. All the life symptoms I mentioned earlier have been a part of my journey. And through it all I deeply believed that life was meant to be enjoyed—not endured. So I began to listen deeply to what my heart and soul were saying.

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The Freedom That Comes With Owning "I Don't Know What I Am Doing"

The Freedom That Comes With Owning "I Don't Know What I Am Doing"

So the next time you think to yourself, “I don’t know what I’m doing,” remember that most of us do not. Most of us live under the illusive spell that we do until life comes along and throws us a curveball. WHA-BAM! And we’re shocked out of our daydream that we know WTF is going on. The truth is: we’re all just trying to figure out how to handle the next situation that’s in front of us.

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You're so smart...how did you get hooked up with that guy?

You're so smart...how did you get hooked up with that guy?

And please, don’t listen to the people who act as if you’ve done something wrong for getting hooked by a con artist. You didn’t do anything other than get bamboozled by a crook. It happens. We’ve all been taken for a ride in various contexts. This one happens to be yours. And there IS a way through the pain, the terror, the guilt, and the shame. You will return to love.

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How do I know if someone is safe for me?

How do I know if someone is safe for me?

Chances are, you’ve become so accustomed to watching others and scanning your external environment that you’ve lost touch with what’s going on inside. And your gut response IS the one you can trust…if only you could feel it and believe that the information it’s sharing is, in fact, accurate.

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