July 19, 2019

Self Care for Emotional Trauma

July 19, 2019/ Jaime Shearer

Typically when you’re on the edge of expansion, conflict occurs because opening to life is in direct opposition to the unconscious strategies you’ve employed to keep you safe. Growth requires confronting our limits, but confronting our limits feels incredibly threatening. If symptoms have been dormant, like anxiety, night sweats, irritability, lack of focus/concentration, digestion issues, etc., they start coming back just when you start moving forward.

June 26, 2019

What it's like to be highly functional with unprocessed trauma

June 26, 2019/ Jaime Shearer

If I could sum up the years I spent doing everything I knew to do to get better, I’d use these words: Stuck. Frustrated. Confused. Alone. Ashamed.

June 12, 2019

Why Striving for Stability Nearly Ruined My Life

June 12, 2019/ Jaime Shearer

In striving for stability, I tamed the wild right out of myself, and with it went desire, passion, excitement, and joy. Stalking stability killed the thriving star, the alive parts of me.

May 02, 2019

Recovering from C-PTSD by Following My Heart

May 02, 2019/ Jaime Shearer

My personal struggles remain personal, but the themes are familiar. All the life symptoms I mentioned earlier have been a part of my journey. And through it all I deeply believed that life was meant to be enjoyed—not endured. So I began to listen deeply to what my heart and soul were saying.

April 25, 2019

The Freedom That Comes With Owning "I Don't Know What I Am Doing"

April 25, 2019/ Jaime Shearer

So the next time you think to yourself, “I don’t know what I’m doing,” remember that most of us do not. Most of us live under the illusive spell that we do until life comes along and throws us a curveball. WHA-BAM! And we’re shocked out of our daydream that we know WTF is going on. The truth is: we’re all just trying to figure out how to handle the next situation that’s in front of us.

March 20, 2019

Relationships: Where We Are Wounded & Where We Heal

March 20, 2019/ Jaime Shearer

And so we reach a crucial point in recovering ourselves when we realize that we simply cannot heal any more on our own; that we need other people and human connection in order to truly heal and for most of us, that is a terrifying discovery. That’s what often keeps us stuck in relationships that are wounding.

March 13, 2019

You're so smart...how did you get hooked up with that guy?

March 13, 2019/ Jaime Shearer

And please, don’t listen to the people who act as if you’ve done something wrong for getting hooked by a con artist. You didn’t do anything other than get bamboozled by a crook. It happens. We’ve all been taken for a ride in various contexts. This one happens to be yours. And there IS a way through the pain, the terror, the guilt, and the shame. You will return to love.

February 27, 2019

We all have self-doubt. Here's what to do about it.

February 27, 2019/ Jaime Shearer

It was then that I realized I wasn’t going to bash my doubt into behaving, and it also wasn’t going away any time soon. But it was causing me a great deal of limitation, and I was definitely over it.

February 13, 2019

Major Effects of Trauma and How to Heal Them

February 13, 2019/ Jaime Shearer

I mean, I’m fortunate that it isn’t that bad for me anymore, but I know how it used to be. . . And I used to hurt all the time. I was “too much” for some, “too little” for others, and “just right” for shame. It was an incredibly hard way to live. I suffered a lot.

February 08, 2019

Putting The Pieces Together After Trauma

February 08, 2019/ Jaime Shearer

Putting the pieces together happens far more slowly than the actual trauma did. Every step you take is working to build your capacity to process the highs and the lows of your experience. If you can be gentle and kind with yourself as you start putting together the pieces of your life, you’ll have a far more peaceful journey.

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