As of this morning, there is no clear winner in the contest for President. For many people, this is nerve-wracking because they have spent the better part of the last four years cycling through traumatic events and were hoping that would end with a change in the Oval. If you’re one of those people, this message is for you.
Read MoreLet me be clear: Moving forward after trauma is very much an impulse from within. It’s not something directed by an outsider. It’s something inside that says, “I want to move on.” It may be a gentle or quiet impulse, and it’s all YOURS. Trauma leaves us feeling like we don’t have agency. Healing, then, gives agency back to us. And when we decide it’s time to respond, we take back our power.
Read MoreTypically when you’re on the edge of expansion, conflict occurs because opening to life is in direct opposition to the unconscious strategies you’ve employed to keep you safe. Growth requires confronting our limits, but confronting our limits feels incredibly threatening. If symptoms have been dormant, like anxiety, night sweats, irritability, lack of focus/concentration, digestion issues, etc., they start coming back just when you start moving forward.
Read MoreCPTSD develops as a healthy response to unhealthy circumstances.
Read MoreIn striving for stability, I tamed the wild right out of myself, and with it went desire, passion, excitement, and joy. Stalking stability killed the thriving star, the alive parts of me.
Read MoreCreativity is one of those sassy little minxes who values freedom. She resents boundaries and structure. She thrives in open spaces where her energy is free to bounce around. She’s playful, so stress threatens her. She’s a lot like a cat - she just wants to do her own thing.
Read MoreThe process of moving forward is going to be a challenging one; it may be more challenging than anything you’ve ever tackled in your career. That doesn’t mean you’re inept; it simply means your liberation is the task at hand—and you have the capacity to take on this challenge. As you walk through breaking free from the trauma, anxiety, and sadness you’ve been experiencing, a new and wonderful life will unfold.
Read MoreChances are, you’ve become so accustomed to watching others and scanning your external environment that you’ve lost touch with what’s going on inside. And your gut response IS the one you can trust…if only you could feel it and believe that the information it’s sharing is, in fact, accurate.
Read MorePutting the pieces together happens far more slowly than the actual trauma did. Every step you take is working to build your capacity to process the highs and the lows of your experience. If you can be gentle and kind with yourself as you start putting together the pieces of your life, you’ll have a far more peaceful journey.
Read MoreI believed people when they labeled my feelings as “too much” or “too little.” In fact, I took those labels to heart and though I was “too much” or “too little.” But that’s another story for another day.
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